What are friends for?
Let’s say you have a friendship with a person who is not the same gender as you (and you are both heterosexual).
Let’s say there may or may not be some spark between you.
Let’s say the friendship is platonic and continues to be this way and is mutually accepted as such.
Let’s say both parties are looking for something grandiose outside of their friendship. A romantic experience with a person that affects connections on multiple levels. Mutual love with all the hoopla.
I know a thing or two about this stuff because I came across it while getting to know the romance and erotica writers over the past couple of years. Some of these people are living in alternate, non-traditional relationships, and some of them spiced up their existing, long-term relationships by introducing things like power-exchanges, swinging, poly or some form of kink into their connection.
Point is, they already have what many people don’t — a core relationship that connects them on multiple levels and prevails in mutual love, passion and respect. This is probably because they explored, together, alternate ways to inject some spark into the ordinary, mundane life that happens when people are together for a very long time.
