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Email spam at its worst

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Back in the day when I was actively writing and publishing erotica on my pseudonym blog, I received many emails from various organizations who offered me something. …

Step 1: stop saying sorry

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Whenever I push a cart through a grocery store, inevitably someone leaves their cart in the middle of the aisle, blocking me from advancing.

The first thing I do is apologize.

“Sorry, can I just squeeze past you here?” I might say politely.

Why is that? I’m not the one…

How a few nude selfies boosted my self-confidence

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There was a time when I had some serious body image issues.

I was an adolescent in the 80s, a decade which did nothing to improve my screwed-up body image. I didn’t look like the 20 Minute Workout chicks (Ann, Bess and Laurie) or the Solid Gold Dancers, nor did…

From blogs to dating apps, what is the right approach?

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As I embark on my If Not Now, When journey, I often encounter other women in similar circumstances who tackle their next phase in life with grace, intelligence and a healthy dose of common sense. These women are all over 50, separated or divorced, and living life on their own…

Tips and tricks from my experience

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Everybody knows a catchy title will entice readers to click, and read, your published essays, blog posts or articles.

But how does one come up with a catchy title?

I’ve been practicing writing titles every since I began publishing content online sixteen years ago. Initially it was on a personal…

GenX coming of age reflections: uncomfortable nurse teaching sex to teens

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This is a multi-part series: Learning sex part 1, part 2, part 3

During my high school years in the mid-1980s, I yearned to talk to someone about the fun aspects of sex, but there was no one. Most people in my orbit were uncomfortable with the topic. It wasn’t…

GenX coming of age reflections: uninvited oral sex

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This is a multi-part series: Learning sex (part 1) Learning sex (part 2)

The mention of oral sex is everywhere nowadays; in social media, online, public billboards, magazine ads, you name it. Just the other day I saw an ad posted on twitter which featured a cartoon woman sitting on…

GenX coming of age reflections: the bj that wasn’t

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This is a multi-part series: Learning sex (part 1)

My sophomore year at University was relatively uneventful. I returned to the same residence and noticed almost all of my previous friends had moved on to some place else. …

GenX coming of age reflections: dorm sex

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The first time I realized that adequate, slow-building arousal was a key ingredient for fulfilling sex was during my University years.

I often wondered what an inexperienced, introverted teenage girl wanted from a boy. Romance, I decided, was the answer. Like they showed on TV.

There was plenty of media…

Optimal health is complicated

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Someone asked me recently what the difference was between a probiotic and a digestive enzyme. It occurred to me at that point that many people reach for supplementation to improve their nutrition and well-being without adequate knowledge. …

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